Six Easy Ways to Build Your Child's Self Esteem
Author: AbelCheng Total views: 18 Word Count: 506
The beliefs and feelings we have about ourselves is called self-esteem. Our methods of motivation, attitudes, emotional judgments, and actions are all affected by the way we perceive ourselves.
Self-esteem is also a key to feeling competent and in control. Good self-esteem can impact future and present success in all area of life. Our self esteem is formed by our primary relationships as children, and our very first relationships may indicate how we feel about ourselves for the rest of our lives.
Even though our later relationships with our peers and other adults may impact our self-esteem, the most important thing parents can do is to allow a child to feel as though they can be themselves in an emotionally and physically safe environment.
A child's self-esteem is based on a positive relationship with parents and eventually teachers. Parents can foster that can-do attitude in their children with a "Wow!" or a "That's great!" every time they accomplish a feat.
Children who feel that they are competent often feel as though they are accepted, which is also an important part of building good self esteem in children. By keeping your child involved in challenging activities, and encouraging them to try even when they may fail is an important way to encourage personal growth. A child who constantly succeeds at simple, unchallenging tasks may feel as though he shouldn't even try to accomplish more difficult tasks.
Even though your child may misbehave, you can still bolster their self confidence and self-esteem by explaining to them that their behavior was unacceptable, but they are still loved and accepted. When you talk to your child, there are several things you can do to effectively communicate and boost positive self-esteem.
1. Limit the "Don'ts" to the barest minimum. State your requests positively. Too many negative words in your sentences will only lead to a child's self doubt.
2. Listen to your child. Parents often make the mistake of thinking their words are more important than their child, which makes child has lower self-esteem.
3. Get on their level. If you are talking to a toddler, you should kneel down to speak to them. The child should be able to see your face without straining to look up.
4. Make sure you have conversations One person shouldn't do all the talking. Likewise, kids must learn only one person should talk at a time. Everyone can't speak at once. Make sure they know that if more than one person is trying to talk, they won't understand a thing.
5. Keep your cool. Make sure you wait to talk to your child when you are calm and relaxed. Speaking to a child when you are angry will only feed the flames of conflict.
6. Criticisms should still be present. We should also take notice of shortcomings or misbehavior as we see it or learn about it. Explain why an action is not acceptable, and allow kids to think of ways to avoid doing it again.
My Articles Directory Free Web Content Provider
About the Author
The author: Abel Cheng is a father of two and a stay-at-home dad. Find out how to raise successful children with his insightful parenting tips found on his Parent Wonder website.
Copy and Paste Article Code.
Remember: The article body, title, author bio and links may not be changed or removed. By publishing this article, you agree to all the terms in our Terms of Service.