Dating Tips: Keeping the Girl
Author: VinDiCarlo Total views: 12 Word Count: 769
Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn't keep around.
And it's quite sad.
There are so many women that has the ability to be a great girlfriend.
But I had my head higher than my ass.
... that may sounds a little harsh.
But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:
First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I've never fully recovered. But I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.
I just accepted who I am.
Sure, I like video games and comic books.
But...
Do you think girls have cooler interests?
Is shopping, getting drunk and Myspace are cooler than what I'm into?
It's all are the same.
Self-acceptance is what really matters.
A woman won't accept you if you don't accept yourself.
Imagine a woman waiting to be your girlfriend and there you are not liking yourself?
She will HATE your presence and don't want to be around you.
Because if you don't like yourself, you can't really like her. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?
Although it sounds easy, self-acceptance is extremely rare. How often do you hear people say, "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"
Based on my experience, almost all DON'T ACCEPT themselves completely.
And I'm no exception.
The amount on how you accept yourself is the amount also on how women find you attractive, and people want to be around you.
It may be hard to completely accept yourself. There is an old beliefs creep in and saying you are not enough, that you must be more than yourself now.
But the degree to which you banish these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better.
Because the real game is about yourself and not doubting about yourself. And the game doesn't end after your opener, after a few dates, after "making love." It never ends that way.
Because that's you.
You are not divided from your game.
The "game" is the degree to which you can express who you really are. Your game IS YOU.
You might be thinking "But I'm insecure, nervous and awkward." I disagree. That's not you.
That is the indistinct you.
That is you trying to come out, but your ego, your old mental habits stop you from expressing what you really want to express.
Before I get too deep into that, I want to move on to the second reason why I couldn't keep women around after I slept with them.
I'm not conscious about shaping.
And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don't know what you want, you can't shape. And knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance.
In fact, it's self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you like, and you encourage women to be that for you.
As you know, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Guys usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than a guy.
But it's not really her fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.
So if you approach a woman and treat her like she's on a pedestal, she will act accordingly.
If you talked and treat a woman like she's lucky you approached her, she'll feel that way.
Also if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle after mating with her, she will do so.
We go into this deeper in our workshop. I have developed a lot of ways on how to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.
Women are different from each other. Like for instance, I may want a girl to be just a partner in bed. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.
I remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.
Also I think all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was not see those women again.
But when I began to accept myself and analyze what I wanted, it all came together.
The Attraction Code is all about finding out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the girls you want to meet, sleep with, and date.
If you're struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.
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