Is Getting A Divorce Worth The Costs?
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If your marriage is in trouble, it is important to consider overall the high cost of divorce, both financially or emotionally. Even if your marriage has suffered from an affair (one of the most common reasons for considering a divorce) it is possible to recover.
A marriage is a bit like a corporation and taking it apart is complicated in many ways just as dismantling a business would be but with powerful feelings involved as well. Sometimes a financial appraisal is just as much in order as an emotional one when considering a divorce. If only one partner was a wage earner or if one has made much more than the other, the financial change can be devastating.
In most cases, a divorce means maintaining two households and that is almost always much more expensive than a single residence. When children are involved, the choices in housing are more limited and more costly. In these days of high gas prices, commuting between two parents adds even more to the costs. Of course, being shuttled between two parents also puts undue stress on the children.
Many aspects of the high cost of divorce, financially, or emotionally, may not come to the surface until a true assessment is made of many things. Child custody can be a very rocky emotional issue and child support for the parents can be a financial nightmare as well.
Even when there are no children, dividing property and items acquired as a couple is difficult. There may be practical reasons for needing items as well as sentimental attachments to some things. If a home is involved, it may be necessary to sell it to fairly divide it and this can mean high moving costs and losing the place of good family memories.
If money is the reason for the split, seeing a financial counselor would probably be required to settle issues like dividing the debt. In this case, the process might even save the marriage.
If an affair is the cause of the split, you might be able to save the marriage with professional help. The clergy will often help at not expense, but there are also family services that charge on a sliding scale and private marriage counselors. Most importantly find someone who has experience with infidelity. Sometimes inexperienced or amateur counsel from friends and family can do far more harm than good.
The betrayed party is certainly hurt by the affair, but the vows that pledged you both to fidelity also called for you to stick together through both good and bad times. Start the healing process: take time to understand the \"whys\" of the affair, and remember that the cheater is a human being who makes mistakes like all of us.
Besides all of the other costs of a divorce, there is also fact that you would be losing the identity of being a couple. This changes your social dynamic with friends and in activities. Even when you both want the divorce, it is common to become lonely and drift into relationships too quickly. Try to remember the good times, and put what is happening now into a farther perspective.
Divorce is expensive both financially and emotionally and in many cases can be avoided with the right help and the dedication to try to save the relationship. If divorce is inevitable, help from outside by experts may ease some of the financial and emotional pain. Being honest about the costs makes the decision clearer for both of you.
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